For starters, I believe that I have the best job on the planet. All day long I have the opportunity to help people feel more beautiful and better about themselves.
Sometimes people have such wonderful news they want to share with me. They found love again, they got a new job, they’re engaged, they just came back from the most amazing vacation, etc. On the flip side there are times when people sit in my chair, sigh, and even cry because they are down about something going on in their life. Whether it’s heartache, loss of a family member or friend, loss of job or money, the acknowledgement of disease, I hear it all. I’m constantly humbled through my clients and always try to learn life lessons through them.
I have a wonderful client who is in her early 30’s with 2 adorable children. She’s a girly girl and loves to have her long hair trimmed and hair color done every 8 weeks. She’s a great mother and wife, and I really enjoy my time with her while she’s in my chair.
Out of no where, this clients life took a dramatic turn… she found out that she had very advanced breast cancer and the doctors needed to start her on chemo immediately. When this all happened she called me, and through tears, asked if I could cut off all of her hair so when it fell out it wouldn’t be so shocking. I felt honored that she trusted me and felt comfortable enough with me to share such an emotional experience with her. One of her biggest fears was how her kids would respond. Her 6-year-old son was afraid that Mommy would look like a boy, and her 2-year-old daughter cried when Mommy told her that she had to cut her hair off.
When she came to the salon she had decided it was important to somehow incorporate the kids in the haircut to try and ease the shock of everything and show them that this was fun and ok. I played with her little girl and let her son help me cut the first bit of hair. This made him feel proud and he suddenly thought it was way cool! My clients mother then took the kids outside while we finished the haircut.
It was so hard to stay strong and it was amazing how much the realization of the cancer started to set in once her hair was all gone. For the record, she looked so beautiful when all her hair was cut off.
She was really nervous of how her kids would react once they saw their “new” Mommy. They came back to the salon, and her son smiled and gave the thumbs up! Then my client bent down to her 2 year old daughter’s level, and she walked up with her little legs and touched her Mommy’s head and said, “pretty hair Mommy.” There aren’t words to explain how this made us all feel.
Something I learned from this experience was that you never really know how much you may impact someone’s life. When my client asked me to cut off her hair I informed her that she didn’t really need my skills as a hairdresser for this. Really, anyone could perform this cut for her. She then responded that I was the only person she felt comfortable with to do this.
Sadly I recently found out that this client of mine lost her courageous fight. This is a reminder of how fragile life is and that everyday is a gift. To have love in your life is a blessing. Be sure to smile at others, give hugs whenever possible, and be patient with your journey, for you never know when it will end.
~*RIP Auntie Robin*~